By Anshul Gandhi
Breaking up is a gut-wrenching decision any couple has to take if things don’t seem to be working out. But what is worse is the idea that the person who was most sacred to you will not be there to share the joys and sorrows in your life. Thankfully, today’s generation is pragmatic enough to understand that it does not have to be this way. Even if you break up, you can still be friends with someone you have loved and cared for a long time. It does not have to end badly. We know it’s difficult, which is here are 10 ways in which you can still befriends with your ex, and no, it doesn’t need to be awkward anymore.
1. Discuss Why You Broke Up
The fact that you guys broke up doesn’t always mean that you made mistakes; sometimes things aren’t meant to be. Just leave it at that and learn to let go. Do not point out the mistakes, let bygones be bygones and accept the apologies. If you are arguing during the discussion too, then the bitterness will grow further and things will get worse.
2. Do Not Immerse Yourself In Honey Singh Songs After Break-Up
The most stupid things people do after a break-up is listening to either sad romantic songs or the shallow rap by YO YO Honey Singh. It will not help your cause but rather put you in the deepest of sorrow pits. Or it will give you a false sense of optimism, and make you vindictive towards your ex.
3. Help Each Other To Get Over The Residual Feelings
Relationships are hard work and thinking over and over again about the time and energy you spent to make it work will only make you feel like crap. So instead, just accept each other as good friends and respect the fact that you know each other well to bridge gaps and be a pillar of support in difficult times.
4. Give Each Other Space
Do not jump on the friendship bandwagon directly after the break-up. Give yourself some time and space to sort out your feelings and put important things in perspective. And, do not expect to fall back on the same shoulder again because as Shakespeare said, “Expectation is the root of all heartache”.
5. Complete The Post Break-Up Cycle
If you are just out of a relationship then mourn. This is the sweat pants stage. Mourn till you feel like crap and then mourn some more. And when you are finished mourning, then complete the break-up cycle by getting drunk and not doing any more stupid stuff over the break-up. There have to be no more drunk texts and phone calls to your ex.
6. Do Not Look For A Rebound Partner Too Early
Rebound girlfriends or boyfriends are the worst idea ever because it will distance you from all the good that was in the relationship and no matter how you end the relationship those moments will stay with you forever. So respect whatever feelings you have and look for a sensible and mature approach to control this inertia of hate.
7. Do Things Differently This Time
Indulge yourself in activities which you wanted to do but could not because of the relationship and stay away from the couple activities which were part of your routine.
8. Convince Yourself If You Want To Be Friends With Him/Her
Are you in a dilemma about being friends with your ex? If yes, then think about why you want to be friends with your ex before taking this big step. You don’t want to do it just for the sake of being in the same friend circle or because of taking the same classes in college.
9. Do Not Try Too Hard
If your chemistry with your ex is not the same as it was before the relationship started then it might just be a good idea to not try too hard to make this friendship thing work. Overindulgence might hurt you in more ways than one and especially when you are coming out of a wrecked relationship.
10. Don’t Be Jealous
If he/she is going out with other people, then you should respect that and move on. Being friends just to keep a close watch over their dating patterns might turn out to be a painful thing. So, concentrate on being positive and enjoy life because life is too short to miss out on the happy things.
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